The Comparison Game
Because our culture demands that we perceive ourselves as “special and above average,” we routinely engage in an egoistic process of social comparison with others. When we’re deeply invested in seeing ourselves positively, we tend to feel threatened if others do better than we do.
One of the saddest consequences of social comparison is how we distance ourselves from people whose success makes us feel bad about ourselves.
The sad irony is that the very reason we want to succeed in the first place is because we want to feel accepted and worthy, to be close to others, to feel that we belong. It’s a classic catch-22. The very act of competing with others for success sets up an unwinnable situation in which the feelings of connectedness we crave are forever out of reach.
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